Monthly Archives: December 2011

2011 wrap up


1st of Jan: threw a tantrum because I missed my cat and house and wanted to go home. Resulted in us leaving holiday 2 days early.
2nd Jan: bad mood, cramps, inkling of a feeling…
3rd Jan: opened my eyes and knew I was pregnant. 2 pee tests and a blood test later, I was pregnant!
Dates fall away now because that’s really asking to much.
Vanessa (mother-in-law) turned 50 and we flew to Jhb for her party.
We moved into our second house in Richards Bay, same complex but bigger house.
Rushed back to the doctor after our 8 week appointment due to unexplained bleeding.
Spent a week on bedrest in terror.
Learnt we were having a healthy baby girl!
Argued over names, I wanted Sage, Shaun wanted Summer. We settles on Lily Sage.
Dad, Vanida, Shalia came to visit.
Russell and Josie came to visit.
Mom and Vanessa came to visit- lots 🙂
Went to the Vaal for 10 days
Got huge
Shaun went away a lot
Fought with the doctor for a natural birth
Went to antenatal classes
Got ever bigger
Shaun went away to NOSA award ceremony & Vanessa stayed with me in case I went into labour. I didn’t but I did slip and fall and rushed to the doctor. Thanks to being so huge Lily was fine.
Was induced and naturally delivered a healthy gorgeous baby girl.
Changed my first nappy ever.
Learnt how to breastfeed
Learnt how to do things one handed
Moved for the third time in a year & a half.
Dad came to visit
Jen, Doug,Mom, Norms, Russell and Josie came to visit and spoilt us all silly
Had a wonderful first christmas at home, and first christmas as a family.
Dreaded New Years party( that’s only happening tomorrow, I’m sure it will be lovely but I’m such a bore when it comes to NY)


Day 08 -> Someone who made your life hell, or treated you like shit.


Sigh. I don’t want to do this post. I’m feeling that it is the end of one year and almost the beginning of the next, and I need to look forward not back. Discussing the people who have made my life difficult will not help me be a better mother, wife, friend, or person. So I won’t. Instead I’ll be discussing people who have made me feel awesome, treated me with kindness and made each day a bit easier.
My wonderful twitter friends are first on the list. The amazing support I get from people I’ve never met in real life is indescribable. I feel I have made real friends this year, through twitter. Maybe I’m being naïve but that’s ok.
Secondly the women I have met in my little town who hold my hand when I have to take Lily for her shots and pop round with yummies and a chat so I don’t get cabin fever. Even my neighbour who always comes by for a chat and some tickles for Lily.
Thirdly all my long time friends, who send me constant messages of love and support. Even though we’re all so far apart and see eachother so rarely I love you guys.
Obviously Shaun should be first on this list, but as I wrote a blog post about him for Day 7, I thought that was obvious.
My cousins, Lorraine who was pregnant with me and Sharon who disappeared on a mad adventure. They are like my older sisters, who I can always rely on for great advice and fabulous gossip!
My dad and brother, who are two strong pillars who may not be the best communicators on the planet, but who are two of the most wonderful men. They both adore on Lily, and me! I know I can always count on both of them.
Finally my mom and mom-in-law. Who have given me my space to be a mom my way. They haven’t bulldozed their way in and tried to show me the ‘right’ way to do things, but are always there to give me advice when I need it. I’m so lucky to have two strong moms in my life, that I can aspire to be like.

Here’s to a New Year full of positivity, happiness, friends, family and baby giggles!

Day 07 -> Someone who has made your life worth living for.


I met my gorgeous husband on matric holiday. Neither of us were looking for a serious relationship, but as soon as we met I knew. I knew I would marry him. He is a wonderful man who is my best friend & soul mate all rolled into one. He looks after Lily & I and is an amazing dad. I’m thankful every single day that he tricked me with fake tequila.
I love you Shaun, forever.

Day 06 -> Something you hope you never have to do.


I’m not going to say the obvious. As a mother, its clear what I hope to never have to do, and I can’t even speak about it.

So I’m going to tell you the second thing I hope to never have to do:
I’m terrified of spiders. Terrified, petrified and just plain shit scared. I know I know, they’re more scared of you than you are of them, most spiders aren’t poisonous, you’re more likely to die from getting hit by a champagne cork than a spider bite, blah blah blah. I don’t care. A phobia is irrational and I can’t get over it. I hope I never have to! I know how one gets over fears and its by being exposed slowly to the thing one is scared of. No. No way. Not gonna happen. Ever.

Day 05 -> Something you hope to do in your life


Anyone who knows me, or anyone who reads this blog or follows my twitter stream, knows I’m a total Harry Potter addict. I know, it’s totally geeky and totally ridiculous but I can’t help it! The way I see it there are worse addictions one can have. Recently my dad, step mother, brother and sister all went to th Wizarding World of Harry Potter in Orlando. I’ve been wanting to go, dreaming of going, since it opened. I have to admit I cried a little bit when my dad was sending me photos on BBM of the castle and Hogsmead and all the awesome things.

You know you’re addicted to Harry Potter when….

So something I hope to do, HAVE TO DO, is go there. I have to go! I’ve always wanted to go back to Disney land and Disney world and I hope to do that to one day, but Harry Potter world is top of the list. Shaun is not interested in the slightest. He rolls his eyes and is non committal when I talk about it. To him a holiday is not a holiday unless it involves surfing. Usually I’d be all for that, I love nothing more than a good tropical holiday, but one day, I will get my way and I will see Hogwarts.


Day 04 -> Something you have to forgive someone for.


At the risk of losing followers, I’m going to use a scenario out of the book “the shack”. The book revolves around a father whose daughter is kidnapped and killed. God tells the father to forgive the evil man who did it, as She knows that its the only way for him to heal. God says (and this is verbatim because I don’t have the book & I’m stating it from memory) that he needs to forgive him every day, and one day, he will start to believe it. She makes the grief stricken father say “I forgive you, I forgive you, I forgive you” continually. Forgiveness is not something that happens over night. I don’t believe that you can one day say “ok, all is forgotten, I forgive you”. That’s not how we work. Our memories work to well! So instead I believe that forgiveness is something that needs to be worked on.

I’ve spoken about this in my post 101 things about me. Everyday I have to say to myself, “I forgive her”. I forgive my stepmother for my parents divorce. I know that my mom and dad are both equally at fault, but as I saw the pain both of them experienced first hand, I have forgiven them both a long time ago. I know it was a difficult thing for both of them. Whether blaming her is right or fair is not the question, the fact is that I do, and I’m working on forgiving her.

Day 03 -> Something you have to forgive yourself for.


I’ve always wanted to be a vegetarian. I feel horribly guilty for eating meat and have tried so many times to give up! I once had a bet with my brother on who would be able to go the longest as a vegetarian and I only lasted a few days. Shaun and I have at least one day a week where we are meat free, and I don’t miss meat when I don’t have it, but the moment I say “I’m going to stop eating meat” it doesn’t work. I wish I could give it up, but I can’t. I think its time for me to forgive myself for failing at vegetarianism. I have tried countless times and I have failed countless times. The fact is, I love bacon, mince, hamburgers, biltong and steak. I can’t give it up and I’ve decided its ok, I forgive you Shaz.

A to Z of Me


Taken from MamaZombie Mumbles.(what makes you think I’ve found a new blog to read and I’m going through a bit of writers block, so need some inspiration!)

Age – 25

Bed size – Queen. In the UK everyone thought we were mad for insisting on a queen size bed. Everyone has doubles there-houses are to small!

Chore you hate – Washing the floors. I can’t seem to figure out how to not get stuck in a corner surrounded by wet floors, or leave dirty footprints behind me.

Dogs – We have had bad luck with pets the last few years. We move around to much. My first was Pixie a sausage who was bitten by a snake at 4 months old and died. We then got Abigail who I adored but had to give up when we moved to the UK. She now lives with a friend and is very happy. We also had Maxi and Piko, two chows who we had when we lived on a game farm in Rustenburg- had to put Piko down as he became aggressive due to a bad leg and we had to find a new home for Maxi when we moved to town. Won’t get pets again anytime soon! I’ll stick to babies!

Essential start to your day – A good bye kiss from Shaun as he either goes to work or surfing, followed by a smile and a cuddle with Lily and then a cup of coffee (usually decaf) and a cookie

Favourite colour – Pink, and purple. But pink.

Gold or silver – White Gold

Height – 171cms don’t know what that is in foot

Instruments that you can play – nothing, I tried the guitar (had a fabulous teacher but wasn’t very good at it). I’d love to play the sax. Its on my bucket list.

Job title – mommy

Kids – a gorgeous daughter named Lily Sage who was born 2 September 2011

Live – in Richards Bay but grew up in Jhb. Since I left home I’ve lived in Rustenburg in 4 different houses (one a huge game farm, which was fun but terrifying because I’m not a bush girl at all), in Australia for a few months, in England for just under a year, on the South coast for a few months, and at the vaal dam for a few months. We got very used to packing and repacking. Been in the Bay for just over a year now and are in our third house- hopefully for longer than 6 months!

Mom’s name – Julie

Nicknames – Shaz, Sha, Shan, Wonch (only my dad ever called me that, and not for years-thank goodness!)

Overnight hospital stays – only when Lily was born. I’ve had 3 hospital visits for operations (tooth removal when I was little, wisdom teeth and to remove a screwed up bone growth on my head)

Pet peeve – pregnant women who smoke and drink, and people who don’t strap their kids in.

Quote from a movie – “you have 10 seconds to change your mind.
Ten hippopotamus…
…nine hippopotamus…
…five hippopotamus…
…four hippopotamus…
…three, two, one!” From Michael. I laughed for days after I watched that movie.

Righty or lefty – Righty

Siblings – A younger brother who is smart, quirky and fabulous, he’s studying film and will one day be a household name and a step sister who is super intelligent. She’s 10 and has read all the Harry Potter books and can play the piano and read music.

Time you wake up – 12, 3, 5, 7. Usually finally give up at 7 and get up. The joys of motherhood

Underwear – at the moment, feeding bras are all I wear. 

Vegetables you dislike – mushrooms. Don’t mind the flavour but hate the texture

What makes you run late – lily usually decides as I’m about to leave to either be hungry, puke or poo

X-rays – teeth for braces, body after a boat accident, lungs for Australian visa

Yummy food you make – I’m not a bad cook. Roast veg lasagne, pasta puttanesca, bean curry.

Zoo favourite animal –  um… Giraffe and leopard

Day 02 -> Something you love about yourself


Once again, I’m going to be superficial first. I love my hair the most about myself. You wouldn’t think so if you had to see it though. Its incredibly thick and curly and frizzes terribly. Its hot and heavy especially in the humidity and most hairdressers cringe when they see me coming. But I love it! I do wish it was longer and shinier and more Kardashianist but its not and it won’t ever be and I love it.

Now, something about ME that I love. Its a difficult one again. I guess I love who I am. Ambiguous I know, and possibly a bit vain, but this is a truth challenge and I promised to be truthful. I like me. I think I’m a nice person. I always try to do the right thing, I always try to be kind and treat others with respect and kindness. I remember while I was in labour I said to Shaun “I’m such a nice person, what did I do to deserve this pain?” It was the gas talking and I cringe when I think about saying something like that out loud, because its not something nice people say! So I feel that this post is contradicting what I’m saying but anyway. That’s the truth. I like me. I like who I am.

Day 01 -> Something you hate about yourself


Something I HATE? Hmmm, there are lots of things I dislike about myself. My weight being first and foremost but I can’t say I hate that because if I hated it I’d do something about it. (Not that I’m not trying but let’s be honest- I could try harder *she says as she dips another cookie into her coffee). I’m not fond of my eyelashes or my bulging cheeks either but I’m feeling that all that is superficial.
I think what I hate about myself is the fact that I cry when I’m angry and so I feel stupid, which means that I often will let things slide that bug me, that I possibly shouldn’t. Purely because I don’t want to get upset and embarrass myself. I am not confrontational at all, I’m not that kind of person to start off with but the fact that I know I’ll start crying if I get angry makes it even harder. This has affected my life because a lot of issues haven’t been dealt with immediately, as they should have been so they spiral out of control and get worse and worse.
How do I stop being such an emotional mess?