A few years ago- OK maybe more than a few, a GOOD few years ago, we sat in our lounge, my mom and I and our closest girlfriends, other moms and daughters, and we rewrote Mary Schmichs poem, Wear Sunscreen. It was an evening full of laughter, wine and ice cream out the tub. We sat for hours, daughters listening to mothers, listening to their advice on all the small things, the things that are important but are often over looked. I can’t find the list of what we wrote, so here is my own one, for my daughter:
Wear Sunscreen. Everyday regardless of whether you are in the sun or not.
Always be polite, it makes people like you
Wash your face and take your make up every night before bed
Don’t drink tequila if you are on a date, you will puke on his shoes.
Always check your blind spots
Make sure your cellphone is charged before you leave home
Never wear tights as pants
Learn to cook, even if it’s only one perfect meal.
Never show boobs and legs, choose one!
If a friend is sick or sad, make them a cake. It will make them feel better
If a friend is happy or celebrating, make them a cake. It will make them feel appreciated.
Don’t judge. Anyone. Ever.
Floss your teeth every day
Always wear nice panties with a skirt, just in case.
Don’t let others stop you from being you.
Dance, if that makes you happy.
Sing in the car and the shower and under your breath at work
Read. And then read some more.
Be kind, be kind, and be kind.
Wear your seat belt
Say I love you when you end a conversation with a loved one. It’s nice to hear it.
Love yourself, your body and your mind.
Pray. Be it to Jesus, Buddha, Krishna, the Earth or that rock in the driveway, Prey. Someone is listening.
Trust your instincts
Learn to hem curtains, sew on a button and fold a fitted sheet.
Appreciate your other half, the small things count. Coffee in bed, remembering to buy their favorite juice or cereal. It will make them feel loved.
Be honest. Lies will always catch up with you
Show the people in your life that they are appreciated and TELL THEM often!